I have spent a considerable amount of
time thinking about life and its essence. No matter how hard I try to decipher life
I cannot think enough. Life is full of fun in shades of colour; hence it should
be lived in full. That is one of my philosophies of life! Most times when we
look at ourselves in the mirror we easily notice how much we have grown in
physical realm. Less notice is made of what goes beyond our physical appearance.
We oftentimes fail, unconsciously, to notice how much we have grown or failed
to grow inwardly as persons. It is most popular that people focus more
attention on outward appearance than on inward appearance. Thus our inward life
exists as a sterilized version of the life we live on the outside. Insidiously,
the life on the inside dies. This is somewhat responsible for the kind of life
most people live today which I have found unappealing and wish to share my
thoughtful ideas with you.
I live life the way good conscience
tells me is the best for me. I have met a lot people; different characters; who
lead their lives for others. When you see them they look good, pretentiously,
on the outside, but on the inside they are devastated. A lot of people live a
life of validation- they want to be accepted by everybody, so they cannot live
without other people’s approval or opinion. They give others emotional access
to their lives; hence they live in other people’s pocket, where they see the
world through the lens of others. They twist image of themselves in order to
fit into other people’s mosaic. They lack the mind of their own. They strive to
satisfy everyone while they are emotionally harried. They buckle under other
people’s tension to change who they are, not because it is desirable for them
to change, but because others want them to. They lose the unique molds that
make them whole just to fit into other people’s model. They end up being clay
such that you pour a skosh of water on them and they topple. They become fickle
images in other people’s imagery.
You may have seen those kinds of people.
You may be one of them. I am not persuaded by the gross sycophancy such a life
portrays. I am worried by the futility it suggests. Frankly, you do not need a
life of validation to associate with other people. You do not need to give
people emotional access to your life for them to accept you. You do not have to
blend with everybody for you to display how gregarious you are. You really do
not need to live your life in someone’s pocket because you want to be accepted
by everybody. You do not need everyone around you to lead a happy life. All you
need is compartment of your life. That’s my other philosophy of life I want to
share with you!
Compartment of life is a philosophy I
have imbibed over the years. It is a personal decision (because it is according
to your viewpoint) you can adopt. It is informed by the complexities of coping
with every Tom, Dick, and Harry. It is a
coping mechanism. It is a refutation of highfalutin rules of validation of life
that has enslaved many people. Compartment of life does not endorse separatism;
it is in consonant with the primacy of the inseparable nature of spiritual rule
of life that advocates for togetherness and indivisibility of societies; and
its advocacy validates the necessity of living a fulfilling life. Compartment
of life is not persuaded by the rhetoric of interpersonal relationships. You
can compartmentalize your life and still maintain healthy relationships with
others. It believes in the notion that everybody deserves distinct places in
your life. Not everybody or everything can fit into your life. And you cannot
fit into everybody’s life too.
Life is like an edifice with a single
room. Everything cannot be contained in that single room. You partition the
room to create several rooms in order to put things in order. Without such
partition disorder is most likely to happen, as objects will be littered
haphazardly. Imagine your clothes are placed in the kitchenette? Imagine your
kitchenwares are placed on your futon or mattress? Imagine your dishes are
placed in the lavatory? Imagine your toiletries are placed in the refrigerator?
Imagine your shoes are placed on your lounger? Things need to be placed in
their ideal places. With such partition complementary objects- objects that
complement themselves- are placed in the same room, while opposing objects-
objects that cannot mingle are placed in a different room. Such partition makes
every object in the room fall in with each other, and the room quite habitable.
You can picture life in those scenarios. That single room applies to your life.
You can imagine how chaotic life will be in those situations.
Life is multifaceted. It is hard to
blend everything or all the people you love. You are better off dividing your
lives into different compartments, giving each person a specific compartment in
your life and assigning values to each person. Their values are signified by
the magnitude of the compartments you reserve for them. This is perception
against reality. Perception does not always reflect reality. When you
compartmentalize your life you will not have to yield much space to those who
deserve little and vice versa; you will not have to give emotional access to
your life to others who treat you less of a human being; and you will not need
to feed anybody’s personality to get accepted by all.
Compartment of life may not seem like a
piece of cake, but it can be quite easy if well-thought-out. The essence of
compartment of life is to reduce your relationship confusions and to install
orderliness in your life. It does not suggest hate. It could rather mean you
are letting people go. It means you are appropriately placing people or things
where they belong. Even in the corporate world, organizations have different
types of employees- workplace warriors; management mavericks; intrapreneurs;
and entrepreneurs- each with its attendant values, and they do not all get
along. They understand and respect their boundaries. Thus compartment of life
is for your own comfort level. It gives you the unusual power to take control
of your life. You are a single soul, so you cannot accommodate everybody in
your life and you cannot fit into their lives no matter how you try to validate
your life for them. Take control of yourself and your time with compartment of
life and you will be marveled at how transformed your life will become.
